10 Things That Run Through Her Mind on a First Date

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The first date should be treated like a job interview. You want to see if this person is a good fit for you and your lifestyle. Because it is so important, a million things could be running through her mind and as a man, you may find yourself wondering what’s on her mind.

Here are 10 of the most common thoughts that she has on that first date.

  1. “Does He Expect Sex?”

While the thought of having sex will probably run cross your mind and you hope it will happen, she will definitely wonder if getting her into bed is your end game. When surveyed by Match.com in 2013, 6% of women admitted that they have sex on the first date.

  1. “Do I Still Look Good?”

She wants to impress you, so she takes a lot of time making herself look pretty. So, of course, she will be wondering from time to time if she still looks good. If you’ve noticed she excuses herself to the restroom from time to time, she is probably checking herself out.

  1. “I Have No Idea What I’m Doing…”

She can exude confidence for days, but the truth of the matter is dating isn’t an easy thing for anyone. So chances are she will have moments during the date when she wonders if she’s saying the right things, laughing at the right time, or if she is keeping you entertained.

  1. “I Wonder if He is Hairy…”

This may seem like an odd thing to think about, but for many women, excessive body hair can be a turn off – especially if she does plan on having sex with you.

  1. “I Hope You are My Last First Date.”

No one actually enjoys going on a first date, so this thought shouldn’t be so surprising. When she thinks this, it is because she really likes you and she can actually picture herself spending a significant amount of time with you.

  1. “What is He Looking for?”

Whether you are looking for a long-term relationship, a random meetup, or something in between, she is analyzing your actions and trying to decide what you are looking for. You can do her a big favor by simply telling her right from the get go what you are looking for.

  1. “How Much Money Does He Make?”

As much as women do not want to admit it, they usually wonder what your bank account looks like. This doesn’t necessarily mean that she is a gold digger and all she cares about is money. It is a common thought for women when they can see themselves being with you for a long time though. Face it, no woman really wants to have to take care of her man, and if your bank account is pretty substantial, she can rest easy knowing that you’ve got your own money.

  1. “This is Pointless… I’m Losing Faith.”

This thought may run across her mind if the date isn’t going as planned. As mentioned before, no one really likes the process of dating, especially that first date.

  1. “Do I Even Like Him?”

Face it. The chances of her listening to every detail of your childhood, she is probably trying to decide if she likes you. She’ll be running a mental check list to see if you have the qualities she likes and taking note of things that bother her.

  1. “How Do I Measure Up to the Ex?”

Avoid this by never mentioning your ex. If you mention your ex, even in passing, then she will start wondering about her. It’s one of those out of sight, out of mind topics.