How Exactly is the Hookup Culture Ruining Love


Generation-Y doesn’t know what “dating” truly means. Instead, they are immersed in a culture where you can sleep with whomever you want, you don’t really have to put much effort into the relationship, and it is far from nurturing.

What they don’t realize is that these very things are the reasons why it is so difficult for them to fall in love, or at least find a relationship that is fulfilling and long-lasting. Curious as to know how the hookup culture is really hurting us?

1. You’ve been “dating” for a while, but you haven’t been on a real date for a long time.

Young people don’t date — they don’t really know what it is. Instead, they just hook up. Being good at dating isn’t just a myth, it is a skill that you must learn and hone. Socializing is an acquired skill, but the only thing Gen-Y folks can seem to do effectively is convince someone to sleep with them.

2. The decisions you make now affect other aspects of your life.

With the hookup culture, you are usually exposed to drugs and alcohol. People who do engage in the hookup culture turn to these substances because they know deep down that being promiscuous isn’t the wisest of decisions and it helps to get over that fact. By using these substances, you are privy to late nights, hangovers, lackluster job performance, and an overall unbalanced life rife with addiction.

3. Risky behavior leads to the possibility of dangerous diseases.

By hooking up with random strangers on a regular basis, you are putting yourself at risk of catching some kind of STD. Even if you do practice safe sex, you still have a small chance of catching something because there is no guarantee your protection will work.

4. You don’t see people as individuals, but as things.

Today’s youth is generally desensitized and they often look at people as a means to an end, rather than an actual person. When you are a part of the hookup culture, your only focus is to find someone, sleep with them, and move on to the next. You aren’t looking to make a connection with that person, you barely even acknowledge them as people but as another way to pass the time.

5. Lack of love leaves us (and the world) worse for the wear.

When you focus on your carnal urges and fail to nurture your emotions, you are going to become a cynic who doesn’t crave human connection. You spend more of your life searching for the physical gratification that sex can give you, but you spend less time searching for a deeper bond with someone.

6. Losing focus on what really matters in life.

Everyone who has experienced sex knows that it is fantastic and it is a good way to relieve some stress, but they also know there is more to life than great sex, especially if you want to be happy. The hookup culture is so consumed with instant gratification, that they don’t understand that in order to truly be happy, they have to work at it. They have to nurture all aspects of their lives, not just what is going on in their loins.