How to Remain Positive after a Breakup


Staying positive after a breakup is easier said than done. Our brains are wired to make us feel depressed at the end of a relationship, even when you are relieved to be rid of someone that drove you crazy.

Everything in your mind turns into negative thoughts and you start asking yourself, “why me?” But don’t despair! You can absolutely change the way your mind works into a more positive inclination. Here are a few ways that can steer you in that direction.

Reminiscing Good Times

Our incredibly busy lifestyles have made it utterly difficult to live in the present. From smartphones to advertisements, from unending office work to running household errands, our lives are running rampant. But to get over your ex, it’s important you start focusing on your happy moments. Dig through your old memories and recall times when you were the happiest.

It could be your winter vacation in the Alpine valley or a few weeks of summer on the beaches of Hawaii. Embrace these old memories and remind yourself that this is just a rough patch you have to get through before you can start making new happy memories.

Be Grateful

It helps to list the things that you are grateful for, things that other people can only dream of having. It could be the running water in your bathroom, a comfortable bed, a fridge stocked with food and a closet full of clothes.

When you start being thankful for these little luxuries, other problems start looking so menial that you wonder why you were upset in the first place. Also, start recording your happy moments in a journal.

This way whenever you feel low you can go back and read them for a boost of happiness.

Surround Yourself with Positive People

Eliminate people from your life that channel negativity and are nothing but toxic. Surround yourself with people who love you, care for you and want the best for you. It could be your parents, your siblings or your best friends. Your life is too short to tolerate people that don’t add anything valuable to your life.

You should be with people who support you in your time of need and are there to share your joyous moments as well.

Chances are that your ex wasn’t exactly making you happy. Maybe they were bringing you down and didn’t support your decisions. Or maybe it was just a period of non-stop bickering that had no end. So be grateful to have your peace of mind back and engage yourself in activities that challenge you and keep your mind occupied.

In the end, it’s all up to you. If you are willing to make a positive change, no one can stop you from being the happiest person on this planet. And if you are choosing to say negative, then no one can help you come out of a break-up. So instead of wallowing under the weight of depression, use this break up as an opportunity to learn and grow into a more positive person.