The Reason to Expand Your Search to Include Thirtysomethings

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Women in their twenties are by far the most searched for group on internet dating sites. But I’m here to let you in on a little secret: hit up the thirtysomethings and you’ll stumble upon a gold mine.

Thirtysomethings carry a significant advantage over their twentysomething counterparts: they are excellent in bed. Losing the insecurities and coming into a comfortable place in their sexuality allows, plus racking up multiple years of experience means they know how to rock your body with confidence.

Reproductive technology has extended the procreative expiration date, taking the pressure off. So thirty-something women who do desire to create little beings of their own are no longer desperate to embark on motherhood before Mother Nature puts her foot down. It is becoming common practice for couples to have children later when they are more financially stable and secure in their careers and have had their fair share of adventures. And let’s be honest: they are still hot. Even if they are older than you, there’s something titillating and naughty about embarking upon a wild cougar adventure.

And not every woman has a reproductive prerogative. Independent women who are intent on living their lives to the fullest without miniature distractions at their feet are women who know what they want and how to get it.

If that thirtysomething is already a mother, then you have hit the jackpot. Dating a mother is the best of both worlds. Sure, you may think you don’t want to take on somebody else’s children, but relax, it’s just a date. As a Mama bear, she isn’t going to let you near her cubs until she is certain you are going to be around for awhile, allowing you the freedom to get to know her apart from her spawn. Pressure’s off. But just think of all the benefits: mothers know how to care for other beings. Their affection is fierce and nurturing. They don’t have time to allow neurosis to permeate their dating practices, so you don’t have to worry about them overanalyzing if you’ve texted or not.

Thirty-year-old women have mostly shed their cattiness towards other women. They’ve learned what’s important in life, and other women no longer threaten their insecurities because THEY HAVE LESS INSECURITIES. Thirtysomethings typically feel more comfortable in their own skin and have clear priorities.

And that whole bit about their age group often being excluded from many men’s search perimeters? Well, it leaves a window open. They aren’t as discerning as they would have been in their twenties because the field has narrowed considerably. Also, with maturity comes the knowledge that superficial things that once mattered to them no longer even register. Translation? You just may have better chances with a woman who would have ignored you a decade earlier.

So go ahead, take the plunge and go for the slightly older girls. You have everything to win from it.