The Best Tips for How to Have a Good Phone Sex

Preparing and getting you ready for great phone sex

Some people love it and some people just aren’t sure how to have phone sex. For some people, that might be having a long-distance relationship, it can be hard to know how to start phone sex and what to say. We take a look at some top tips and learn how to talk dirty on the phone.

How to start phone sex

Who starts phone sex and how do you initiate it? That is probably the hardest part, along with ensuring that you don’t feel corny when saying cliché things that might be a bit cringe. If you want to build up the tension and the anticipation then a good tip is to lead into it gently with a flirty text message like “can’t wait to talk to you later”.

Practise if you need to

This may sound a little strange and we aren’t suggesting that you go out and practise with your friend or someone else but practising in your car, when there is no one to overhear you can be a great way to build confidence. Say things out loud in your phone sex voice and see how they sound. That might be difficult if you are on your way to a very important business meeting but on the way back may be a good time.

Losing the inhibitions and just going for it

You may be a little shy when it comes to phone sex but keen to get into it. There are a few tips to helping you lose your inhibitions and really get you in the mood:

• Relax – if you have lots of work to do, or are stressed about something, it is going to be hard to get yourself in the mood
• Dress the part – if you feel sexy you will feel more confident
• Find out what they like and what they want
• Be able to laugh about it if there are a few unexpected moments
• Touch yourself and use the right terminology – you are going to be turned on so this is probably not going to be something you need to think about!

Sometimes you just have to get on with it and get started until you realize what fun it is. Start with something simple like “what are you wearing?” or even “hey, how are you doing?” Sometimes starting off with a normal conversation can lead to other things. Be prepared.

Knowing what to say when talking dirty

You don’t have to turn into a foul-mouthed thing possessed but it is good to describe what you are going to do to the other person, or what you would like to do. It’s not enough to say I am going to rip your clothes off, you need to be a bit more descriptive – “When you get home I am going to slowly undress you starting with…” – really make it as visual as you can. Imagine you are reading a bit of erotic literature. You don’t want to just be reading that they had great sex – you want to know what she did to him or what he did to her in great detail.

Use your voice to tease and seduce

It’s not all about what you say but how you say it. Be seductive and use your best sultry and sexy voice. There is a way to deliver things that will seduce the other person and make them really turned on, especially if you are breathing heavily as you touch yourself or moaning while you are turned on.

Make good use of the technology available

Who says that you have to stick to phone sex? Yes, you may prefer it but why not take advantage of what technology has to offer and try facetime sex or some other video app available to you. You could be chatting to each other on video messenger while mutually masturbating. While you may not be able to see each other in person, that is a pretty close second. You may want to start with phone sex and then progress to video sex.

Warm up with a practise run

Whether you are going for phone sex or video sex, it helps to warm up first and get in the mood. Why not read an erotic story or watch some porn, something that usually gets you in the mood? Perhaps a little masturbation will get you loosened up a bit so to speak and ready to get down and dirty with your partner.

Pay attention to the other person

It is all very well focusing on getting the voice right or making sure that you say the right things but you also need to focus on the other person. If you don’t you may miss critical bits of information that they give you about what they like or dislike. There may be subtle moans when you say something in particular or you might miss the answer to what they want you to do next. Be a good listener as well as engaging fully in the role that you are playing.

Be open to new ideas from your partner

If your partner wants you to indulge in a fantasy maybe, or something that makes you a little nervous, try to respond as you would want someone to respond to you when sharing your deepest darkest fantasies. Laughing will just make things awkward. Perhaps he or she wants you to say something particular or to use a toy while you are talking and perhaps they suggest that you turn on the camera and dress up. Are the things that they are asking you to do so unusual or do they fall outside of your comfort zone? It is important that you are comfortable or you aren’t going to enjoy it.

The idea of phone sex is to bring you together as intimately as you can while you are not able to be together physically. It is not something that you should get wound up about or that you find stressful. You need to be up for it and willing to try new things and to feel comfortable about the situation. If you are tense, nervous or worried or have had a particularly bad day then it is probably not the right time. Plan some time when you can relax beforehand and get yourself ready and go with the flow and enjoy. It may and leave you wanting more!