The Unspoken Rules You Need to Follow in a Gay Chat

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Just like any other forum, website, or social media outlet, there are going to be a set of general rules you need to follow; however, if you are new to a gay chat room, you may want to keep in mind these unspoken rules to help you make the most of your chat room experience.

1. Familiarize Yourself with the Real Rules

Once you log onto a gay chat room, you will probably see a section where there are specific rules of things you can and cannot do while in the chat room. By learning these rules, you’ll save yourself from getting booted from the room, muted, or possibly even banned.

2. Upon Entering the Room, Introduce Yourself.

Typically when you first join a chat room, you are going to have to choose a screen name for yourself.

This name is what others will know you as and until you become a regular of the room, people will wonder who you are. Upon entering the room, you will want to make it a point to greet everyone and answer the moderator when they ask for your ASL (age, sex, and location).

3. Don’t Lurk In the Room, Talk!

The whole point of joining a chat room is to actually sit among the people and converse! There is nothing more unsettling than being in a gay chat room where the participants aren’t talking in the open and they are all in private message. If you are having a private message conversation with someone, try to pay attention to what they are saying, but also try to engage in the conversation that is going in the room as well.

4. Be Patient With People.

Not everyone who enters a chat room are tech savvy or excellent typists, so the response times may not be as rapid or as coherent as you’d like. Instead of getting angry, try to be understanding and patient with them.

5. In a Smaller Room, Ask if You Are Welcome.

Sometimes you may not be interested in joining a busy chat room where the screen flies by. Sometimes you want something more low-key and leisurely; therefore, you’ll join a smaller chat room.

Unfortunately, you may stumble on a private chat where people are gathered to discuss something and they don’t want prying eyes. Upon entering, simply ask if you are welcome in the group. If not, don’t take offense, just apologize for interrupting and be on your way.

6. Be Courteous to Others.

When you are in a gay chat room, you should always make it a point to be courteous and polite to the other chatters. This means you should use ALL CAPITAL LETTERS because this is considered yelling. You should avoid using multi-colors when chatting, and avoid multi-lined ASCII art. When you do these things, they break the flow of the chat and it could be considered flooding. By flooding the room, you could get kicked out or even banned.

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