3 Ways Men Try to Communicate That Women Miss Completely
Everyone knows that communication is essential for any relationship to work. If the communication leaves little to be desired, the relationship is going to suffer.
We’ve been told that men and women are from two different planets and that the way they communicate proves it. Women complain that men simply will not open up and talk about anything. Men complain that when they do try to open up, it causes a fight, or their feelings are dismissed.
We have been told that men are callous, they don’t have the desire to communicate, and don’t have feelings like women do. Interestingly enough, men do have feelings, they do want to communicate, and they want to be heard.
Unfortunately, men rarely ever share these things with their partners. In fact, they don’t share these things with anyone. Okay, guys will get together and talk about their relationships with their buddies, but they don’t have deep conversations that can get to the root of the problem.
Keep in mind, this doesn’t mean that they don’t feel, though. In fact, there are three things that men do that shows you that he’s trying to communicate with you, and they are:
1. He starts offering solutions to your problems.
To him, when he offer solutions, it’s his way of being your knight in shining armor. He’s trying to make you feel better and help out. However, if you aren’t looking for a solution and just wanted to vent, then you probably missed it and might even bite his head off or dismiss his suggestions completely. When you do that, he feels like he failed you and he’s going to shut down.
Next time before you go into your vent session, tell him what you’re looking for. If you want to vent, just ask him to listen. If you want advice, tell him. If you want to be comforted, he’ll be more than happy to wrap you up in his arms after you talk about what’s bothering you.
2. He becomes quiet.
When a guy is dealing with a lot, be it stress, worry, or even fear, he becomes quiet and hides in his man-cave. Try resisting your desire to ask him a bunch of questions and instead just give him the space he needs. Or, sit with him in silence while he thinks about what is bothering him. Just trust that he’ll open up when he’s ready.
3. He gets physical.
When a guy is in a relationship (sometimes even when they aren’t), they’ll use sex as a way to connect with you. On the other hand, women need to feel that connection before they have sex. When you see your guy showing signs of wanting sexy-time, it’s his way of letting you know that he wants to get intimate with you. Interestingly enough, this is a good time to talk… As long as you aren’t doing the deed during the conversation. The best time to talk is before sex because if you wait until after, he’ll probably pass out on you!