How to Happily Date an Alpha Male


There are essentially two types of men – the alpha male and the beta male. The alpha male is often confident, successful and gives off a certain air that makes him attractive. By comparison, the beta male is less confident, often quiet, perhaps shy and not as revered as the stronger, more alpha types. But how do you date an alpha male and what should you be aware of?

Recognizing an alpha male

Before you know how to date an alpha male, you need to recognise one. When it comes to recognising the alpha male personality, there are a number of things to look out. Obviously, he is going to be confident and attractive. He doesn’t have to be the best-looking guy in the room but he will be confident in the way he looks. He is powerful, a natural leader – this is part of the attraction – that confidence in the way he holds himself, his swag and general demeanor are all signs of an alpha male. Perhaps he is not the loudest in a crowd but his presence is felt.

How do you deal with an alpha male?

This question very much depends on the type of woman that you are. If you are shy, timid, quiet and not very confident, you are very much going to find yourself dominated by this man. He is likely to be the one in control of the relationship which is fine if this makes you happy. The danger in this situation is that he could control you and be the one to make all of the decisions about what you do, where you go etc.

Meeting an equal

If you are a confident and successful woman yourself, you are perhaps looking for an equal, someone that can give as good as they get and someone that you feel on an equal footing with. You can work together to build the kind of life that both of you want with the same goals, aspirations and the drive to get them. This can be a winning combination however, it can lead to some hot-headed arguments when you are both striving to be right.

Are you too alpha for him?

Of course, if you are more successful than he is, earn more money, are more confident and happy go lucky with life, then you are going to have to ask yourself if this particular alpha male is enough for you. Being with someone stronger and more independent than him may not be good for his ego and may not be the best match for either of you in the long run. It could actually be damaging to his confidence as he tries to match you or is living in your shadow.

Attracting an alpha male

Perhaps you are not dating an alpha male but are attracted to one and want to catch his eye. There are a few tricks that you should follow to make sure that he notices you but you are going to have to make sure that he does the chasing for your plan to work. Obviously make sure you are in the same place at the same time but follow these tips:

• You are going to have to stand out as the most attractive girl in the room and that isn’t just how you look but how you present yourself.

• Don’t be too loud and overbearing but be confident with your body language and the way you hold yourself.

• Do not approach him! Wait for him to come to you – he needs to be the one to make the move.

• Listen to him with intent, be impressed and feed his ego without falling all over him.

• Leave him wanting more. Don’t be too keen to jump at his request for a date or to give him your number, tease him a little and make him work for it.

There are a number of things that you shouldn’t do. Don’t play games for a start. If he likes you and he is making a play for you then don’t make it hard for him – he will get bored of the games. Also, if you are winning over an alpha male then you shouldn’t undermine, compete or try to outdo him. He wants a partner not someone to play games with.

How do you know if an alpha male likes you?

Let’s be honest, if an alpha male likes you, it is not going to be hard to learn this. Often, with an air of confidence, he will have no problem in telling you. He won’t be afraid to approach you and offer to buy you a drink or to ask you out on a date. If he wants you he will do the running and he will make no mistake that he is into you, as long as you are making the right responses. The trick is to not give in too easily. Often, he could enjoy the thrill of the chase as much as winning you over so don’t be too hasty to give in but not so reserved that he loses patience.

Don’t mistake confidence for arrogance

The trick is to makes sure that it is confidence and not arrogance that you are attracted to. Arrogance is not such an attractive trait in a man and can lead to bad feeling. If he is the centre of attention, always right, knows he looks good and expects everyone to want to fall into bed with him then you may want to keep your distance.

Don’t have too many expectations

You may be dating a confident guy that presents himself as great at things but often, there are going to be areas where he’s not so great. Perhaps he is really sporty but not so good at fixing things or maybe is really intelligent but not so hot on sport. Don’t expect him to be perfect at everything and manage your own expectations of your relationship. An alpha male is not made of steel and everyone is only human.

The heart wants what the heart wants and we can’t choose who we fall for. If you have your mind set on an alpha male then make the situation work to your advantage. If you are attracted to a certain type of strong alpha male and the more beta type doesn’t do it for you, you are going to need to understand how to date an alpha male to get the best out of your relationship.

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