8 Steps to Get Over a Breakup As Fast As Possible

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Breakups are terrible especially when you are the one who got dumped. No matter how hard you try, you find it hard to be your usually chirpy self. However, it’s time that you stop sulking around and start looking for love somewhere else. If you really want to get a move on with your life, it’s time you put that tub of ice-cream down and open your eyes to the real world. Here’s where you need to start:

Step 1: Accept the Feeling of Emptiness

After getting dumped, most people find themselves in a state of denial. For the sake of their ego, they refuse to admit that they are having a hard time and keep all their feelings bottled up inside. Embrace the feeling. It is only natural for you to want to feel sad. Ask your best friend to stay over for a movie or something so that you can talk and get everything out of your system. You need to be able to embrace grief to move beyond it.

Step 2: Stop Feeling Sorry For Yourself

Realize that there are tons of people out there who love you and are fond of your company. You cannot just let one person tarnish your self-esteem. So, you have been dumped, but that’s okay. You probably must have dumped a few people yourself too. Understand that relationships cannot be forced so you are better off without someone who doesn’t appreciate or understand you.

Step 3: Cut Off All Contact

This means no Facebook, no Twitter and no text messaging. If you have just gotten out of a messy relationship, the last thing you want is to see is a photo of your ex-having a great time at the party on Facebook. Cut off all contact for the time being. You will miss them desperately at first but as time flies and you get some emotional clarity, you will be pleased by how pleasant your life is without them.

Step 4: Reflect On Your Relationship Together

Were they really worth all the trouble? Were you being treated right? There’s no point of sulking over someone who doesn’t deserve you. On the other hand, were you being too pushy? And did you always say the wrong things? You don’t want to be making the same mistakes again.

Step 5: Enjoy Your Time Alone

You need to get used to being by yourself for some time. Enjoy your time alone. Treat yourself to some pizza and a night dedicated to your favorite TV shows.

Step 6: Do Something to Distract Yourself

You don’t want to be thinking about your ex every time you walk past your favorite eating spots. Get yourself a new hobby or take the time to connect with old friends. When was the last time you enjoyed a boy’s or girl’s night out? Embrace your new freedom.

Step 7: Start Dating Casually

You can’t be single forever. There is plenty of fish in the sea. Go out on casual dates. Don’t be afraid to enjoy yourself. However, you might want to take things slow at first.

Step 8:  Don’t Be Afraid To Love Again

It’s only natural for you to feel like every relationship is going to end into a horrible breakup. Follow your instincts and don’t be afraid to love again.