Learn How to Become a Fantastic Flirt

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Flirting is a basic instinct and if we don’t initiate some sort of contact with the opposite sex, the human species will cease to exist. Flirting isn’t just about finding a date (which it definitely does do), it can also boost your self-esteem quite a bit as well.

For women, it is important to let it be known that you are available and interested in finding a partner. According to dating expert, Sandy Ewing, men find playful women completely irresistible and much easier to approach.

For men, when you want to flirt with a woman, you can bet that she will respond much more positively when you are confident. You have to show that you are different than other guys. You’ve got to be energetic and fun in a way that other men who came before you were.

Creating Confidence

When you aren’t confident, you will greatly limit your opportunities of meeting someone. It creates an invisible shield and makes people unwilling to approach you because they just don’t know how to react. Palmer says that for those with self-esteem, it is best to “fake it ‘til you make it.”

You can increase your confidence simply by taking note of what your strengths and weaknesses are and embracing those strengths. Confidence is all about knowing your talents and abilities but also knowing where to be cautious.

Build Rapport

Once you introduced yourself to someone, you will want to think of an icebreaker – something that hasn’t been said a thousand times. Come up with something creative and unique. For example, you can complement the person on an item of clothing or accessory. This will help you build rapport which will help forge a strong connection that will enable both people to relax.

Send Signals

Body language is as important as verbal language. Researchers found that actions do, in fact, speak louder than words and people communicate 55% body language, 38% in the tone of your voice, and a mere 7% by the actual words you say.

So it is important to pay attention to the signs the other person is giving off with their body language. Are they smiling a lot during the conversation and making eye contact? Is their body pointed toward you or toward an exit? Are they nonchalantly grooming themselves (fixing their hair, straightening clothing, etc.)? Are these all signs that you want to take notice of?

Battle of the Sexes

No matter the species men are hunters and providers whereas women are gatherers and nurturers. The men find it exciting chasing after women, whereas women prefer to be pursued, seduced, and being able to nurture the relationship.

You want to treat dating as long trip, rather than a final destination that you have to get to quickly. Enjoy the game of flirting and keep it as relaxed as you want. Flirting doesn’t have to be relegated to just bars or nightclubs, as you can do it anywhere.