8 Ways to Spark a Conversation with Someone New
Getting over your nerves and trying to spark a conversation with your crush can be both exhilarating and terrifying. Even just the thought of trying to think of something can be enough to make you break out in sweats. However, these tips will help you work up the nerve so you can talk to your crush, no sweat!
- Introduce Yourself
Sometimes it is as simple as simply introducing yourself to get the conversation going. It is the first and the most important thing you should do. You want to tell him your name and a little bit about yourself. For example, if you are in the same class as this guy, tell him your name, your major, and ask him if he understands the material. It is a great way to get the conversation going.
- Compliment Him
Once you tell him your name and a little bit about yourself, you can pay him a flirtatious compliment. When you’re being flirty, you can get to know him but also give him the signal that you’re digging him. Just be sure that compliment him tastefully — you don’t want to make him feel awkward!
- Comment About the Location
If you find yourself running out of things to say, comment on the location. If you are at work, comment about the copy machine that keeps jamming. If you are at the library, ask if he has ever read a particular book. These are excellent ways to rejuvenate the conversation.
- Open-Ended Questions
One of the most important things to remember when you are trying to get a conversation going with your crush is to ask open-ended questions. You don’t want to ask him things that he can use simple one or two-word answers to respond. Instead, ask him a question that makes him think.
- Pay Attention to Body Language
You can tell a lot about a person by his body language. If his body is pointed toward you and he is leaning in (even if only a little) then it is a clear indicator that he is interested in what you have to say and wants to continue talking. If he has his arms crossed and his feet are pointed away from you, then you either have to change the subject quickly or just say goodbye.
- Don’t Be Afraid to Use Flirtatious Body Cues
While you may be keeping an eye on his body language, you want to be mindful of your own! Pop your hip, smile, bat your eyelashes, and even touch his arm while you talk. All of these things may seem small and insignificant, but they work!
- Keep The Pace
When you are finally able to get him engaged in a conversation, you want to make sure you can keep the pace going. If he is joking, joke with him. Make sure the conversation flows easily from one topic to the next.
- Practice
If you are that afraid of talking to your crush, talk to as many new people as you can. This will help you build confidence in your skills as a conversationalist.