Signs that You Just May Be Bad at Flirting


We like to think that we are the next Casanova and our flirt game is on point. Sadly, for some people, this is far from the case and they end up looking awkward, their attempts at flirting falls short, and the person they are hitting on gives them the side eye. The worst part of all of this is the person doesn’t even realize what they are doing wrong.

Here are some signs that you might be bad at flirting.

1. Talking About Other Suitors

While don’t doubt that you have other people vying for your attention, you don’t need to let the person you’re flirting with know that. In their mind, if you are bragging about other people who may be pursuing you, they won’t want to be bothered by the competition, even if it may be imaginary.

2. Obsessively Posting on Social Media

If you are friends with the person you are trying to flirt with on any form of social media, don’t feel the need to like every status update, picture, or comment. You may think that it is harmless and you’re letting them know that you are really into them, but all that other person is getting is that you’re kind of being a stalker. And that’s never attractive.

3. Touching too Soon

You’ve probably read that touching someone while you flirt with them is a good idea, which it is — in the right time frame. You don’t want to just meet someone and start caressing their cheek, that’s just creepy. If you’re meeting for the first time, keep your hands to yourself until there are clear signs that the other person is digging you. Even then, keep the touching to a minimum and don’t get too frisky!

4. Avoid Eye Contact

Eyes are the window to the soul, and if you really want to make a connection with the person you are flirting with, you have to make eye contact! It can be intimidating at first, but once you are engaged in an interesting conversation, you’ll want to keep staring into their eyes from time to time. Just be aware how intently you are staring. Again, you don’t want to come off too strong!

5. Ignoring Personal Space

While you want to be close to the person you’re flirting with, you don’t want to get too close. There is a perfect distance between standing too close and being too far. Unfortunately, that sweet spot is different for every person. Some people get fidgety and cannot handle being too close to someone. But, once you do find that perfect distance, maintain it!

6. Drunk Anything

Whether it is drunk dancing, drunk texting, or drunk hooking up, one word of caution — Don’t. Sure you may use alcohol for a little bit of liquid courage, but once you’ve had too much, you go from being relaxed and cool to being obnoxious and messy. Spare your crush (and yourself) the humiliation and know your limit. Better yet, avoid alcohol completely.