A Guide on Flirting, Texting and Dating Etiquette


What is Flirting?

Flirting is a way of expressing one’s interest in another through behaviour, demeanour and verbally. It is a fun and spirited tool that gives you the chance, to let someone know that they have sparked your interest in them. It can work for the most confident and even timid individuals; through a romantic gaze across a restaurant or inviting smiles, for example. However, if you have not mastered the art of flirtatious expression, flirting can prove to be a laborious and sometimes awkward experience for you and the target of your affection. Nonetheless, it is supposed to be all-round fun so in any circumstance do not take it too seriously, but of course, be aware of your audience and their needs.

Forms of Flirting

Of course, one’s intentions and affections will determine how and why one flirts with another. There are different forms of flirting including: playful flirting, polite flirting, sincere flirting and traditional flirting. All of these forms of flirtation are characterised by how you communicate and the way one carries themselves; sincere flirting, for instance, is characterised by a keen interest in listening to the other person and being totally engaged. There are also two main categories of flirting: verbal and non-verbal communicative flirting, which can both be used to become a professional flirt.

Non-verbal communication flirting

According to experts in the field of flirting, approximately 90% of communication is non-verbal. These are the more subtle ways in which you can display your interest in a person. Despite your keen interest in them and your potential eagerness to let them know you’re attracted to them, being overzealous can be a bit awkward and all round a dangerous move for you and the target of your affection. Especially if this is the first date or first encounter.

Body language and facial expressions are the primary tools for flirting. For instance, careful and deliberate eye contact; making sure that it is not overly static but used accordingly. For example, averting your gaze to their lips or if you are feeling adventurous somewhere else other than their eyes – although it would be advisable that the gents use the latter a bit more sparingly. Nonetheless, engagement and focus let the other person that you are interested in and devoted to them; when you are successful, you can make them feel like the only person in the room.

Verbal Communication Flirting

Again this can be subtle, but also gives slightly more room for you to be vocally expressive, about your thoughts and affections towards love interest. ‘A compliment is the easiest way to flirt’ especially when done right. Note how her dress brings out the colour of her eyes or, how good his haircut looks. Subtle comments and compliments like this can raise a good opportunity for conversation, as well as placing you firmly in the flirting zone.

Another form of verbal communicative flirting is humour; everyone loves a good joke to lighten the mood. It can prove to be a great way to inadvertently show you are engaged and care about making them laugh, and according to research ‘is a strong indicator of romantic interest.’

Science of Flirting

Flirtation, according to social scientists, has an evolutionary basis and is part of our human nature. It is natural and everybody has a flirty side bursting to reveal itself. However, the art of flirting is one to be mastered. There are scientifically approved, flirting behaviours that can guarantee you success in communicating your interests, for instance, one of the most effective ways of flirting is subtle body contact, like brushing one’s hand or the arm, stimulating a deep romantic connection.

Texting and Dating Etiquette

The unwritten rules and regulations of texting etiquette can be so underplayed, yet a lot of us find ourselves racking our brains, asking when is it right for me to text them back? If I respond quickly, will they think that I’m desperate, or will they be offended if I do not respond swiftly?

It is safer to text quickly rather than play the waiting game, nonetheless bombarding them with multiple texts can be overwhelming for them and for you. Therefore play it cool and casual, yet not overly nonchalant so as to not give the impression that you do not care about them or their response.
Also, tone can be difficult to discern via text. This is why it is imperative to translate you as your best self, especially through texting. Focus on maintaining their interest and intrigue in what you have to say and express your enthusiasm for meeting or speaking to them again.

Dating etiquette takes on a very similar approach as texting. You must actively show that you are engaged and interested in them and the conversation, while applying the flirting tips that we have discussed above. First impressions are also very really important; this is how a person sets their mind up about you and this can determine how successful the date or subsequent dates go.

All in all flirting is an instinctive and romantic tool that can develop your dating and romantic life significantly. It is, however, vital for you to know how to use it and master it to avoid uncomfortable situations. This is where all the flirting, texting and dating etiquette we’ve discussed will come into play, to help you navigate through that date, conversation or first-time encounter. As practical as it may seem, flirting it about having fun and being free, so do not be so diplomatic and pragmatic about it, but ensure you and your love interest enjoy it. Allow the flirty banter and chemistry to bounce around the room(or on your phone through texting).

Now go and get your flirt on!