What to Do After a One Night Stand?

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Undoubtedly, having a one-night stand can be a difficult situation to navigate through. Whether you want to cut all ties with the person you have slept with or want to see if you can take it further, handling someone after a one-night stand can be difficult. That is why we’re going to take you through one-night stand etiquette and the variety of situations you come across that can help you determine how you should act in each individual situation.

Do You Regret Your One-Night Stand?

The first question you should ask yourself to determine how to handle your one-night stand situation is do you regret what you did? Maybe it was someone who has been trying to get with you for a while and you don’t see it happening, so it has led to a sticky situation. Or, perhaps – as is extremely common – it seemed like a fantastic idea after a few drinks and now you wouldn’t want to go near that person at all while sober? Whatever the case may be, if you wake-up next to that person in the morning and feel a sense of dread and amazement at your own stupidity creep up on you, at least you’re aware that you don’t want to take it any further than it went.

Was it a Drunk One-Night Stand?

Mostly, people who end-up regretting their one-night stands are those who were relatively intoxicated before pursuing said person. It makes sense, your inhibitions are lowered, and you do things that your sober self would never do. Fortunately, if the other person was also drunk – and a random person you met – then the likelihood is that they’re going to be as happy as you are to just forget the night ever happened.

However, if you slept with someone you know, then this becomes a bit more challenging. You have to work out how they felt about what you did and what you can do to move past it. This becomes more challenging if they’re hoping for something more when you’re not.

How to Get Over a One-Night Stand?

Maybe you’re not the individual who regrets the one-night stand, but you were with someone who did. Evidently, this may sting a little and depending on how attached you are to the person, then it can be heart-breaking. Getting over a one-night stand that didn’t go any further with someone random is much easier as you can continue dating and pursuing options with relative comfort.

However, if you slept with someone and were hoping that more would come from it and it didn’t, then this can take time. If they’re someone you regularly hang-out with, then sadly you have to put some distance between the both of you. No matter how much you can trick yourself into thinking you’re cool with their decision, it is not healthy for you to be around someone who you wanted more from. By doing this, you’re just reinvigorating your attachment to them and not giving yourself the time, you need to move on.

Forms of and How to Contact After a One-Night Stand

If you have decided that you have no regrets regarding your one-night stand and wish to take it further, then evidently you need to be able to contact the person in question. Even though it can be an awkward morning after, if you haven’t already got their contact details, then this is the best time to get them.

What can make the situation problematic is if the person you’re interested in doesn’t feel the same way. They may not want something serious or may have regrets themselves. Although this can hurt, you need to respect their wishes and if they seem vague or cagey about giving their details, then you need to leave the issue.

But, if you were able to get their details before or they seemed ok about giving them to you the morning after, then you can start considering how to contact them.

What to Text a Girl After a Hookup

When you’re a guy in the one-night stand equation, it is a lot easier to message your counterpart as, traditionally, women are more likely to want to pursue something more after a one-night stand.

However, this doesn’t mean you shouldn’t be clear about what you’re looking for. If you just want a repeat of the night’s activities, then you need to make this clear to avoid any dramatic events unfolding later. By choosing your words carefully and ensuring you’re not taking her on a date just to repeat what happened on your one-night stand, means that you will be able to pursue what you’re looking for if that is what she wants too.

What to Text a Guy After a Hookup

If you have his details and you want to see the guy again, then sending a message is the best way to pursue something more. However, you need to keep in mind that you’re in a delicate situation that could result in an outcome that you’re not looking for. He may think that you want to continue something casually and if you’re looking for something more serious, then this can cause some confusion.

The best way to approach this situation is to leave messaging the guy until later in the day and open with something friendly and laid-back. Something along the lines of we should go out sometime opens-up the possibility of pursuing something more but gives him the opportunity to not respond or not commit to a definite date. Furthermore, you need to be careful in your wording and suggest that it is a proper date you’re looking for and not a booty call. If you were to message him something along the lines of, ‘last night was fun! We should do something again sometime,’ then it can appear as though you’re looking for a repeat of your one-night stand.

What Guys Think After a One-Night Stand

Firstly, you need to treat every guy differently. Making generalisations about the thoughts and feelings of guys after one-night stands are fine for the purpose of helping you tackle these situations, but you need to approach each guy differently. So, although we will be making generalisations about what is going through a guy’s head after a one-night stand, it is ultimately up to you to be discerning enough to fully understand the guy you have slept with in question.

Can a Guy Like You After a One-Night Stand?

The simplest answer to this question is of course he can! There is nothing particularly that prevents a guy from pursuing something more with you or building a relationship with you, but that doesn’t mean that it is always going to happen. It purely depends on the guy you have slept with and your relationship with them in the first place.

Of course, there are always going to be the kind of guys who are not going to pursue something afterwards. To a lot of guys, you have already given them what they want and, as the saying goes, why buy the milk when you can have the cow? As derogatory as that statement is, it summarises that kind of attitude aptly. You’re more likely to come across this kind of guy at a club and is probably someone you have had limited contact with before.

There are going to be guys that, despite having no previous relationship with you, will want to pursue something after a one-night stand. While this is grand if it is the kind of thing you’re looking for, you want to be cautious about jumping-in too quickly. You won’t know a lot about this person, and he won’t know a lot about you either. So, it is very likely that he may want to get to know you a bit more, otherwise you could find yourselves in a terrible relationship as you’re not compatible with one another.

Awkwardly, having a previous friendship or acquaintance with someone doesn’t guarantee that anything will come of your one-night stand. He may have always just wanted to sleep with you and now that has happened there is nothing else to gain. Furthermore, for many people it may ruin the relationship you previously had and they may find it difficult to go back to what you had or progress further in a different kind of relationship.

However, for some people who have had friend they have slept with as a one-off thing, it can be the start of a beautiful relationship. Perhaps, he has always wanted to try something with you but never had the courage and that one-night stand helped quickstart things.

There are so many variations and possibilities involved that it does purely depend on your situation and the guy you’re with. So, think carefully about that before making presumptions about the kind of things that could be going through the guy’s head.

So, now that you have been introduced to some of the rules for one-night stand etiquette, you will be able to handle these situations better. Whether you want to forget your one-night stand or pursue something deeper, you now have the tools to help you make the most out of your night.

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